I'm going out with someone online, how do I know if he's a predator or not?

I'm going out with a guy online and he's really sweet and I love him. The thing is, we have a 3 1/2 age difference, but it doesn't bother either of us. (I'm 14 1/2 and he is 18.) I don't think he is a predator, but I'd like your thoughts or opinions.



- He's very very sweet and nice, but not overly nice

- He's a gamer and I've played with him on psn before

- We do webcam or mic chats nearly every day

- I've seen his family and his friends over the webcam

- He has a Facebook with all his friends from school

- He loves Spongebob, Pokemon, and penguins :] (he has a big Spongebob blanket hanging on his wall)

- We have cybered before but BOTH of us regret it and we're never doing it again

- He never pressures me to do anything

- We say I love you and call each other honey and stuff but he made sure it was okay with me first



So my question is, do you think he is a predator, or am I safe? I don't think he is, because when we first talked he wasn't asking for sex or anything, and we started going out after about 5-6 months after we first met. We've been going out for 4 months, and I'd hate to have my heart broken if I find out he's a predator. Thanks!I'm going out with someone online, how do I know if he's a predator or not?
Girl you are a minor, as you see, is a disadvantage for you. I will not say that you should leave or not with him, maybe have shared and discussed many things that can be sincere and honest, but no reason you should go alone to the appointment.

Talk to a family member or cousin or friend who is older than you, 18 years old or more, to accompany you wherever you go. At least in the first five or six dates you have with him.

Whether he is a good person must respect you, understand the situation and accept what you have decided to do, as it is for your good and safety. If he gets upset and protest, not be the person you thought was. Remember according to law he is an adult and any relations where there is sex with a minor, is illegal. OK
pay attention to how he talks to you:

Dose he/she try hint or get you guys to meet?

Dose he/she usually speak like he wants sex?

ect.

you can test the person by telling the person you're under aged. if he tries to break off the relationship then he's MOST LIKELY not a predator.



In all honesty, online dating isn't safe compared to meeting them face to face.I'm going out with someone online, how do I know if he's a predator or not?
Well, it does seem a little fishy.

Just don't give him more personal information, your address, never cyber or talk about sexual things with him(you're only 14, you don't need that anyway), and yeah.



I think he is fine. But just be safe and be cautious.
if he's not a Predator then he definitely has some self- esteem issues for dating 14yr old, watching pokemon, spongebob and especially for having the d@mn blanket on his wallI'm going out with someone online, how do I know if he's a predator or not?
If he is a predator you would be dead by now.
Um... it doesn't matter what you THINK



Legally, YES; this man is a predator!
dont go anywhere with him without someone for a while and dont give him personal info
ok... all I have to say to this is it's a bad idea.
Me being a fellow nerd, I know this guy quite well, just from the description. If he likes Pokemon, and Spongebob, and plays playstation, yeah he, and I'm being honest cause this is basically me, he is probably really nervous when talking to you. Cause let's face it, nerds don't get all the pretty girls, and he would not screw it up by being a predator, although, I never instigate online dating.
Well first of all you're not going out. You can't go out with someone online. Secondly, how can you know he isn't into you just for sex if you have never been around him physically? Sex is a physical thing, hun, so there's no way to tell if he is only using you right now.

I don't think you're ever safe when it comes to other people online. Sure he may not be a predator, waiting to get you alone so he could rape you. But how do you know he doesn't have a REAL girlfriend, or multiple online girlfriends? How do you know there isn't something seriously mentally wrong with him? Because honestly an 18 year old would never settle for a 14 year old...especially an online one!

P.S I know you do not want to get your heart broken, but don't you think you will get hurt in the end? Eventually, as in soon, it's either you meet him or break up because he's an 18 year old guy (apparently), and do you really think he is going to be content with hugging and kissing the computer? He's going to find someone real soon, so either way your heart will get broken.
I agree with the person above ( Ghost)

Do u seriously think a 18 year old guy would be content hugging and kissing with u on the net?

Do u seriously think a 18 year old gius would be happy sitting in front of computer for hours to "date" u without human touch?



c'mon. u know the answer.

18 year old guys want sex. it's a natural thing for young men.



so my guess is it's either he has a GF in his town or he has severe mental issue who cannot handle a relationship with women around his age.
predators are very rare,either way your the one coming on to him just ask himfor a picture of his face if you need more proof put him on cam even if you dont have a cam..
I met my wife online at first i thought she was a predator after me because she lied about her age so she could score with older guys half her age but yeah im older..
EDIT:: not in all countrys you have to be 18 to date a younger girl,in my country it is ok i met my wife when she was 13 and i was just turning 17

dude why am i getting thumbs down?! AGE DOESNT MATTER FOR ****

If you really love him then wait till your 18 to go meet in person and give him the love and affection every man deserves,he sounds like a sweet kid.

Yes you are safe if he comes to meet you be sure to have friends or family with you when you meet because ive been meeting people over myspace at warp tour for years