The feel of security is gone... loneliness, depression, etc...How are relationships affected when someone leaves for the military?Most couples (50%) don't make it through deployments. If a spouse was raised in a military environment and isn't too needy (is self reliant) then the adjustment is easier. There are a number of support groups on every base. It is very important to leave your spouse with a really good support system (ie military wives, family, savings acct, emergency plan, will, advanced directives, power of attorney, church support group) Most military units before deployments will go through a pre-deployment process and will sort all these things out. Unfortunately, only one spouse goes through the process, so if the couple aren't not good communicators, you could see a breakdown in translation.
Writing, phone calls, emails, FB, and MS, are all great ways to reach out to your deployed spouse. they didn't have all that when I was in. Technology has definitely made it easier to stay and keep in touch. No matter what resources are in place, if you are cheater, then the relationship suffers, badly. Nothing worse then coming home to an empty house, or someone else's clothes in your drawers (stories I heard).
Unfortunately, no one wants to think there spouse will rip them off of all their money, but you need to prepare for it. A certain amount of money needs to go to the deployed spouse and a certain amount needs to go to the spouse and family that is not deployed. This is necessary, I have seen too many deployed personnel with no money while on deployment, and then come home and there is no money either.
I honestly do not recommend that anyone marries during their first tour. If it was meant to be, she will be there waiting for you when you return. Let her or him have a life while you go and live yours. That is my opinion. Lived through it. I ended up divorced after getting out and going away to school. She made it through my military years, but couldn't make it through the college years. I hope this helps your paper and there is a lot of information out there for you.How are relationships affected when someone leaves for the military?My only source is personal experience - They are either strengthened or broken. But it really tests your relationship. Nobody who "sort-of" loves each other will make it.
Maybe somebody with a B.A. in the social sciences has written a thesis on it or something. Good luck finding out.
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