As a seperated military spouse how long is the process of collecting support for our child?

My husband has just been activated to deploy to Iraq for the second time. We have been living seperately for 3 years and he has paid SOME support during that time. If there is no court order for support can the military force him to pay support and if so who do I contact and how long is the process. P.S. I have learned that he is receiving BAH II. I thought he was supposed to be still residing with his spouse at the time of deployment to receive this type of BAH.As a seperated military spouse how long is the process of collecting support for our child?I suggest you get an attorney. You have been living seperately for 3 years and haven't been getting the constant support that is needed for your child.



Your husband (ex husband!) has a responsiblity to insure his child(ren) are taken care of. If he is not fullfilling his responsiblity as you have indicated, then you will have to 'force him' to do so.



I suggest you realize that you no longer have a marriage and you ex is not being responsible so you need to step up and do what's right for your children. Get an attorney and get the custody and financial responsibility issues resolved.



Good luck!As a seperated military spouse how long is the process of collecting support for our child?You are right. He shouldn't be collecting BAH. If any spouse is living single meaning no kids, wife ect... they will be given opportunities to live on base in dorms or a major decrease in BAH. When it comes to child support the military is very strict on that. You should have a court order though. If you don't want to go through that and can come up with an agreement with him, one thing you can do is contact his Commander. Tell his commander the situation and tell him he is not paying you child support. Since military laws are very strict they will not want him to have to go through court and all of that so they will get on him to pay you.As a seperated military spouse how long is the process of collecting support for our child?Unless you are divorced he is not required to pay support. That said he does need to provide for you and your child. Most units will make him turn over his BAH to you if you are not living together. They are not required to though. Do you realize that your marriage is a sham and the govt could make you payback any medical benefits you may have used while you were seperated. I suggest you either make your marriage work or get divorce. Stop trying to hold onto him for the BAH and other benefits.